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#1 You exist in the present moment, with your past behind you and your future ahead of you. However, your past is still with you, and it shapes the lens through which you experience the present moment. Your past shapes how you love.

#2 We must explore our past in order to become therapists. The past is full of pain and dysfunctional relationships, but this does not mean that we are damaged beyond repair. Healing is always possible.

#3 Being honest about your past makes it much more likely that you will be able to enjoy a happy and healthy intimate relationship today and in the future. Relational self-awareness is not only essential for your intimate relationship, but it is also essential if you plan to become a parent.

#4 The Name-Connect-Choose process is our tool of change, which helps us expand our relational self-awareness about how the past affects our intimate relationships today.