Each individual is born as a complex and unique combination of traits, personality, and temperament. According to research, each person has their own "pathway" for absorbing and understanding information. This, referred to as distinct learning styles, results in varied methods of receiving, processing, and communicating with the rest of the world. Because parents typically think that their children should do things the way they do, learning style has a significant impact on self-esteem. In any case, they are living witnesses to the efficacy of that method.

However, as parents, it is all too easy for us to miss, or perhaps forget, that our children have a completely different perspective on the world, and we continue to force them to do things that are against nature in order to do so. Things that only have meaning for us are nothing more than hard labor that should not be done. Children are seldom suppressed by their parents on purpose. Contrary to popular belief, children seldom mock their parents on purpose. Conflict is understandable when parents and children have opposing styles. I sat next to a depressed father on a trip to Orlando a few months ago. Bob served in the United States Air Force as a fighter pilot. Now it's time for me to relax. He took early retirement and now works as a guide. I quickly grasped his anguish after only a few phrases of conversation. He turns out to have five children, two of whom drive him insane. We had an open and amicable discussion, and I shared with him some of the ideas.