In this style, through a 4 week study, you will be looking at your friendship style and how you treats others in your life, especially those who are not your friends. You will consider kind girls versus mean girls in how they treat others and how you can choose to respond to a mean girl in your life.

There will be discussion of how God can use mean girls in your life (like any other trial or challenge) to purify your faith, teach you patience, develop perseverance in your life, and help you to grow. As you learn to respond to mean girls the way God calls you to respond (quietly, patiently, lovingly, and with compassion and humility), you will grow closer to becoming the person He desires you to be, and have the opportunity to influence others in a positive way.

Week 1 will help you understand that mean girls are in every school. You will learn that one of the mean girls' desires to be mean lies in getting an expected reaction from you...the target of their meanness. And when they get the reaction they are seeking, it gives them permission to continue targeting you. However, when you refuse to respond in the way the mean girl is expecting, you take away her ability to victimize you. God has great purpose in allowing mean girls into your life.

Week 2 you will discover some of the reasons why girls choose to be mean. Sometimes, they feel they have permission to mistreat people who are unattractive, annoying, have bad manners, bad habits, or are different. Alyssa, one of the author's, will share her story of how she became one of the mean girls and what she learned in changing her behaviors. You will complete a self-evaluation survey to help you determine if you are more of a kind girl or mean girl. You will learn what mean girl behaviors to avoid.

Week 3 you will learn more about your own friendship style. You will rate yourself to see how kind you are and where you need to grow with God's help. You will also learn that when you encounter a mean girl you may have no idea the history behind her meanness or why she has chosen you to be her victim. There are critical pieces to the puzzle that are missing making it impossible for you to judge the mean girl's actions correctly. That is why it is so important for you to shift from focusing on the mean girl's "meanness" to focusing on your response to the meanness. You cannot control another's actions, but with God's help you can control your own.

Week 4 suggests a date for mother and daughter to celebrate your relationship, share what you learned and pray for one another. An action point to apply what was learned is identified.

This is the fifth style of nine styles that will help you grow into the woman God designed you to be. Each style looks at a different area of your life, such as beauty, fashion, and friendships. You will learn life skills and values through studying these styles that will build character into your life and equip you to make a difference in your world.