Many people with personality disorders are products of their environments. They were raised by mothers and/or fathers who were either self-absorbed, abusive, neglectful, or cruel. They had genetic vulnerability to be sensitive to their environment instead of gaining the type of resiliency that is bulletproof around adults who are a bad influence to the children whom they watch over.

Most personality-disordered, anxious, traumatized, or stressed people often wonder what a normal mother or a normal family environment looks like. Sometimes, they think that their environment was normal simply because they did not experience physical abuse. But these individuals were often in emotionally invalidating environments where the adults around them only cared about their own wants and needs, often ignoring their children's needs.

This book will discuss the traits of a good mother in contrast with the traits of a bad mother.