Married people need sex and companionship too. Every human being needs the warmth of a human touch and the acceptance of a kind word. And sometimes, after many years, and much effort and contemplation, these things can only be found by going outside of your marriage.

Many people who have affairs will do so because they feel themselves dying a little inside every day for lack of sexual touch, emotional connection or a general understanding in their home situation. Though if you scanned the internet or newspaper, it would seem that anyone who has had an affair, or ever contemplated having one, is akin to something you'd scrape off your shoe.

We disagree. In fact, we feel that the reality is altogether much different.

Our intention in writing The Ultimate Guide to Having a Smart Affair is to acknowledge and affirm that there is nothing wrong with wanting these things for yourself. The difference in our approach is to help you to find these things in such a way as to reduce risk to your family and children's stability, with the goal of keeping your family unit intact for the greater good.

Ultimately, respecting yourself and your home situation is paramount. Each and every one of us is looking for a safe, satisfying and life-affirming connection. It's time to find your passion and feel the pleasure of being alive again.