Intimacy, The Essence of True Love True love is attainable! When you accept the premise that true love is essentially intimacy, you can begin learning and applying basic principles for creating intimate relationships. When it comes to attainability and sustainability, gaining some basic relationship knowledge and wisdom can be the difference between the search and discovery. "Never before has the process of developing a healthy relationship from the point of initial contact been detailed, a map provided for one of the most important journeys of our lives: the intimacy journey." "Linder packs a huge amount of 'back to basics' information into relatively little space." Neil Kobrin, PhD.