Charisma is your image reflected in the consciousness of others. If you are surrounded by people who appreciate you then it means that your control point is internal. It means you take ownership of your actions and interact with as many people as possible. If your control is external, if everything you do is dictated by other people or factors outside of yourself and your conscience, then you will not take responsibility for your actions, you will become a burden to others and you will be uncharismatic.

Charisma is intimately linked to setting goals and having a clear purpose. The process of setting goals makes you materialize your desires which are just thoughts that, through this process, become real.

You need to know what you want from yourself and from life, who you are and where you want to go. And this depends on your personality, on your inner strength. Leaders have this inner power, that's why they are so charismatic. People see them as a role model. They remain in the individual and collective mind even after a long period of time. People without charisma are quickly forgotten by others.

To get where you want to go you will have to interact with others and for that you need the influence to move people and things in the direction you want. This is the only way others will follow you, showing them the clear direction you want to go but also tangible results; if you don't do this they won't follow you or they will leave you when the first difficulties appear.

Start by becoming aware of yourself. What are you? What effect do you have on others? What effect do others have on you? Inner analysis, if honest, will bring out all those qualities and flaws you have now. Every flaw you have must be corrected, just as every quality you possess must be exploited and enriched.