Yes, you married the wrong person and your spouse did, too. So, what exactly does it mean? It means everybody goes wrong. It means everybody clings to unrealistic expectations about marriage. It means the old marriage models are failures and it is time for a new paradigm. For most of us, misconceptions and myths about romantic relationships remain unquestioned. We follow conventional guideposts because everyone else is following them. Everybody Marries the Wrong Person discusses the twenty misleading beliefs about romantic relationships and addresses the big six warning signs of users and abusers: substance abuse/dependence, mental cruelty, physical and/or sexual battery, anger, controlling behavior and under-functioning/under-responsibility.
Everybody Marries the Wrong Person means that marriage cannot succeed without mature love and discusses the eight basics of mature love and lists four behavioral goals. Mature love develops as we manage personal expectations and reactions, focus on partners strengths and choose to be both loving and lovable.