Sexed (Sex'd) - Hardwired by Nature –Evolving by Choice is a first of a kind book, about the sexual hardwiring of the heterosexual male. While shining a spotlight on some of the predicaments of heterosexual male sexuality, it takes a deep archeological dive into the meeting place of sex, consciousness, biology and intimacy .In so doing it offers a granular look at the impact of our sexual hardwiring on our lived experience as men, far beyond comedy and caricature or the superficial conversations society has thus far offered us. Sexed – offered both as a reference for therapists and a personal study guide for the curious and evolving, and brings the reader closer to a more crystalized sense of sexual self-agency, access to intimacy and the opportunity to continue to bring the best possible version of himself to his relationship and the world. Of course women readers can benefit too by gaining insight into the development and inner workings of the heterosexual man's mind and a broader understanding as to why the hardwiring and its impact has proven to be somewhat trans historical and transcultural .|Sexed: Hardwired By Nature – Evolving By Choice A new vision for men and sex, intimacy, biology, connection and self-hood. A book for men and a book for the women who love them. (805 pages) "If you are unable to find a guide for the exploration of the heterosexual man this book opens a gate to see and hear, to name and grasp, to explore and pace, to experience and map, to understand and start conversations about a most intimately unknown world that actually has always been in and around you." Dr Georg Fodor Consultant Psychiatrist and Neurologist, Psychoanalyst Why SEXED? Because sex bleeds into who we become as men. Not unlike most of us who have noticed the hardwiring in ourselves and looked around for answers to explain it, I have looked for coherent messages and books to confirm my own experience of that feeling of "hardwired for sex". Please don't misunderstand me – I love sex and intimacy. I have also had a driving curiosity to know how we become individuals, develop group consciousness and cultivate deeper connections inwardly and outwardly. As a male heterosexual who felt the full force of my sex drive upon its arrival, I couldn't find any useful information to help me make more sense of what it meant to be alive in a body that had been so intelligently hardwired for sex. I could only find pornography and caricatures of sex or medicalised explanations of it. I felt as if I were—we were—left alone to beat our paths through the jungle of incomplete or inaccurate information. Being left alone is fine to a point, except that for us men, sex will be a calling—at least for a time and often a very protracted time. Sex sets the stage and translates how we make sense of our world, our relationships and the meaning in our lives. A calling? Perhaps you are thinking—"c'mon, aren't you referring to sex or love addicts or something like that?" In fact I'm not. I'm talking about us—all men. If you have given some thought to your own sex-hardwiring I am sure you will have a good idea of what I am talking about. If you are a woman reading this – well – then I am sure that you, too, will have suspected men's "hardwired for sex" nature all along. So what occurs to me, if we are looking to develop, to master our lives and relationships and discover a brave and evolving expression of manhood—as well as to help our boys to do the same—is that garnering a more complete understanding of our relationship with our sex bodies and sex minds must be deliberate and very near the top of our "to do" list. Getting beyond the old...