Forgiveness is a wonderful idea, in theory. Forgive, forget, get on with your life. Tellingly, most books on ethics and morality view forgiveness as a way to escape suffering, as if anger or hatred were something to brush off with the breezy words "I forgive you." Rabbi Rami sees forgiveness differently because he understands the trickster nature of the self. In his Guide to Forgiveness, he'll help you to stop identifying with the slights and grudges borne against you so that forgiveness can begin to happen naturally.