This is the first book to explore what happens when patterns originally created to cope with family conflicts are unleashed in the workplace. Crossing the personal growth and leadership genres, it helps readers dramatically improve their professional relationships by taking control of the underlying family patterns that so frequently stymie them. Drawing on material and experiences from Total Leadership Connections, her highly successful leadership retreat program, Lafair presents the unproductive work behavior patterns that grow out of early family relationships (often going back many generations) and provides readers with the tools they need to break free. Written in a brisk style and offering a wealth of real-life anecdotes and practical, workbook-style exercises, the book teaches readers that its possible to get beyond old, outmoded attempts at conflict resolution and empower themselves to make profound differences both at work and in our personal lives. Lafair reveals thirteen most common patterns that correspond to characters familiar to anyone who has ever worked in an office: Super Achiever Rebel Persecutor Victim Rescuer Clown Martyr Splitter Procrastinator Drama Queen (King) Pleaser Denier Avoider Throughout the book she offers quick, practical and effective tools and exercises to breaking free of these patterns, without years of therapy.