Dr. Haltzman has taken dozens of stories from his clinical practice and on-line surveys to help women relax and enjoy a happy marriage by not working so hard on it, by doing less, talking less, skipping a few counseling sessions, understanding their husband's way of expressing himself, and taking better care of themselves. Here are some key secrets revealed from www.DrScott.com * Learn to communicate more about the connection you seek so your husband really knows what it looks like and how to do it. He'll accept it as his goal. * Realize that your husband sees his most important job as pleasing you. Seriously. Remember the line "You make me want to be a better man"! * Who says the house has to look like Barbie's Dream Home? * Nurture your husband's strengths and don't try to change what you can't. * Speak in shorter sentences, don't skip from subject to subject, and pause frequently. No kidding * Take time for your own exercise, spiritual and intellectual needs. * Avoid fruitless and unrewarding emotional work like most marriage therapy, how to books (except this one), and gripe sessions.