CHAPTER 1

MARRIAGE DEFINATION

To divorce her is a sin because already you have seen each other nakedness and had established the sexual bond as God approved (Ex. 22:16-20 & Deut. 22:29-29). Therefore premarital sex relationship is not a sin provided you are faithful to your wife and if you divorce her you commit adultery likewise the woman.

What the Lord regards as a sin. is adultery and fornication. There is no specific laid down marital procedure in the bible as marital custom and tradition vary from one tribe to another and from one nation to another among all the people of the whole world and you are free to marry fulfilling their local custom and tradition regarding marriage. God is not interested in how much bride price you pay but you must keep to the sexual bond you have established whosoever you called "my wife" or "my husband" in as much as there is no marriage tradition in haven (mat 23: 23-32)

CHAPTER 2

FORNICATION MARRIGAE SAGA IN SOME CHURCHES

As some churches consider fornication marriage as a sin, several marriages had been broken as the husband and wife parts each other according to the instruction of their individual church's Pastors specially some of the Pentecostal churches in Africa. They regard their God giving children as children of fornication according to their Pastors teaching. Several books had been written against premarital sex relationship regarded as fornication marriage. Theses Pastors cannot distinguished between marriage and fornication as the readers of those books and their Pastors believe that in-as-much-as you have not paid the bride price of the woman in relationship with you, you are committing formation. So both the man and the woman and their children must separate else they will never be raptured and will go to hell fire.

Out of fear, the woman that attends the church would tell her husband "Goodbye" and the husband will broke into tears for losing his beloved wife . Children look at their mother packing out of the home and abandon them because she is afraid to go to hell fire. In that case, mother disowned her children and the father also disowned his wife and children if both of them attend different churches. As a result their children become desperate prostitutes and criminals in the society and hate anything called "church" that separated their parent from them.

The question is "where can we find such teachings in the bible?" As I ponder over it, I discover that those Pastors misinterpreted the bible and as they cannot distinguish between fornication and marriage and that is the crux of the matter. They join the two words together to make it one and called it "FORNICATION MARIRIAGE" OR " PREMARITAL SEX RELATIONSHIP" and there is no such word in the bible. What we have in the bible is either "marriage" or "fornication".

One thing I discover is that if those Pastors preach that a man must not have sex with a lady first before he marries her for fear of being deceived they are right any way as so many men are out there commuting formation – moving from one woman to another under the pretext of marring them; therefore they must be very careful – that is right although it is a matter of luck. Some will actually marry them and others would not but only see their nakedness and drop them. But if she meets a man that loves her and already living together, they Pastors should draw their attention and warning the man not to divoice her because God had already known them as husband and wife in-as much-as they have seen each other nakedness and had established the sexual bond and also urge the man to make it know to her parent by fulfilling all or part of the...