How come some individuals appear to so easily find loving partners and
relationships that lead to consignment, marriage, and youngsters? And how come
the rest of us left questioning how they do it-while we seem to go on date after
date, or have one relationship after another come apart? Is it that we choose the
wrong individuals again and again? Or maybe we act a particular way that makes
perfectly great mates leave us.
Perhaps it's even merely a matter of mischance and bad timing that causes a few
of us to discover ourselves alone.
The reality may be real hard to believe. And that's that anybody can have a loving,
healthy, and long-lived relationship with a mate they find both attractive as well
as nurturing of their character, spare-time activity, and goals. But, what
commonly occurs it that we get into relationships and then act in those
relationships entirely based on gut instinct. And not only are we unconscious of
where those instincts come from, but those instincts are commonly based on
some really bad habits learned in childhood.