This multiple award-winning book translated into Spanish shows how current parenting approaches of rewarding behavior, using threats and punishments, and relying on rules are all stress inducing and counterproductive. The paradox is that these approaches rely on external sources to prompt internal motivation.

The book describes a significantly more effective approach by using the three proven practices of positivity, choice, and reflection along with the Raise Responsibility System (used in homes and schools around the world) to prompt young people to WANT to behave responsibly without any external or manipulative approaches. In the process, stress is reduced, relationships are improved, and young people become more responsible.