One thing we can all agree on in our "safe, sane and consensual" lifestyle is that punishment must feel good. Pain must ultimately be pleasurable. And any sort of masochism or sadism must work in the context of pleasing the sub.

In BDSM culture, it seems relatively easy to get the hang of the attitude, the behavior and the words. But in terms of logistics, as in how to properly discipline or punish a sub, things do get a bit more complicated.

And that's why we're devoting this entire book on how to play right and how to punish the sub so that she likes it, rather than the Dom abusing her and violating trust—the ultimate sin in the game of discipline.

We're also going to cover some of the more "fringe" topics of BDSM, including health risks, extreme pain, unique psychological states and how you as a sub can protect yourself. This will be of crucial interest to you as a sub or switch or Dom, since it's best to understand the logistics and motivations of both roles before you fully submit.

You may also discover that as you take precautions and grow in knowledge, more extreme practices may appeal to you. At the very least, you will always know what a Dom means by some of these code words and what they imply sexually or in punishment. It's always a good idea to stay informed and never take chances—never assume anything! Because in BDSM, assuming anything of your Dom can be a big mistake.

To get truly healthy and pleasurable BDSM experience, these are the topics you surely don't want to miss!