When parents fight, it can be very scary for kids, especially if one parent is hitting or hurting the other. Kids in this situation often don't know what to do, whether to tell someone or keep the abuse a secret. It is especially confusing because the child usually loves both parents and then has conflicting and confusing feelings about what is going on in their home. Kids living in an abusive home need to feel safe and loved, and they need to know they are not alone.