Better Parents, Better Spouses, Better People Daniel Goleman with Daniel Siegel. It's never too late to heal painful patterns with new understanding. Understand how our parents' behavior impacts our mental, neural, and social development. Learn how self-reflection and awareness transform our relationships with our children, spouses, and selves. Discover how emotional habits can change at any age. In this insightful exploration, Siegel and Goleman explain how our relationships shape our emotional habits – and the brain itself. The neural patterns formed in childhood have immense importance in our lives as parents, lovers, and people. Siegel and Goleman explain how we can free ourselves from the hold of our past to create richer, more balanced relationships.