When something cannot be fixed and in fact gets worse and there is no solution, being truthful makes you the "Man of No" - the bearer of bad news, the bearer of the worse news. You can delay, you can fib, you can omit, you can dance around the issues, but eventually you must tell the truth. You delay as long as you can to spare your love the agony. But, during that time you must deny your spouse the truth when "deny" was never a word in your vocabulary all your lives together. It is a heartbreaking thing from which you never recover.