一味地争强好胜。是莽夫；一味地退守忍让，是懦夫。争与让的智慧，是在争中留有余地，在让中铺垫积累，争中有让，让中有争，从而迭到一种刚柔相济的和谐。一个人只有深谙进退之道，能审时度势，洞悉对方的意图。体察自己的处境，从而进退有节、挥洒自如，才能在社会竞争中立于不败之地。It is the behavior of a reckless person to blindly seek to prevail over others and a coward to retreat and exercise forbearance all the time. The wisdom of competiveness and tolerance is to leave some leeway in competition and to accumulate and grow in tolerance, i.e. combination of competitiveness and tolerance, thus achieving a harmonious state that combines toughness and gentleness. One can remain invincible in social competition only by behaving tactically and freely based on full understanding of the principle of advancing and retreating, considering of the situation, knowing clearly of others' intentions and observing of the situation of himself.