As an adult child of divorced parents, I have looked for characteristics of a healthy family. Why does trauma paralyze some and motivate others? Using stories of addicts and world leaders, I have found the catalysts and principles that changed the trajectories and embedded strength into people predisposed to failure. This is my personal growing edge. This is what I have taught in hundreds of seminars across the country and what we talk about in marriage coaching and personal counseling. The chapter on anger comes from our most requested and most productive seminars and writing. My personal goal is to develop distinctive disciples. The strengths, values and vision in this book are foundational to distinctive, thriving people and families.