What if the silence that's praised is the silence that kills?

In Marriage or Martyrdom, Rev. Ronke Joseph confronts one of the most dangerous and unspoken realities in African communities: the cultural, religious, and societal pressures that keep women silent—even in the face of abuse.

Drawing from real-life stories, including the heartbreaking case of gospel singer Osinachi Nwachukwu, this powerful book challenges generations of toxic endurance and redefines what it means to be a virtuous woman. With courage and compassion, the author dismantles harmful traditions and uplifts a new narrative—one where women are valued, protected, and free to choose life over labels.

Whether you're a survivor, a spiritual leader, a concerned friend, or someone seeking to understand the realities African women face in marriage and faith spaces, this book is a wake-up call—and a roadmap to healing.

Inside this book, you'll discover:

Why silence is often mistaken for strength—and why that must change

How culture and religion can empower or endanger women

The difference between submission and subjugation

Practical ways communities, churches, and families can protect women

The role of men in breaking the cycle of abuse

A call to spiritual leaders to rise up in truth and accountability

Real tools for women to heal, thrive, and mentor others

Marriage should be sacred—not a slow martyrdom.
Let this book break chains, challenge assumptions, and spark a movement toward justice, healing, and bold voice.

Perfect for:

Women across Africa and the diaspora

Faith leaders and counselors

Gender equality advocates

Book clubs, empowerment groups, and ministries

Anyone ready to see change in homes and communities