Forgiveness is not about excusing wrongdoing; it's about acknowledging and naming the wrong for what it is. It's essential to pursue justice and speak the truth. However, if your heart is filled with a desire for retribution, to make the wrongdoers suffer as you have, then you're not seeking justice but vengeance. Vengeance breeds anger and hatred within, consuming you. If forgiveness is absent, your confrontation with the wrongdoer is driven not by a desire for justice or for preventing future harm, but by a personal vendetta. This approach is tainted by the same malice you're fighting against.