You can not change what happened, but you can change how you are dealing with it. You are allowed to change! What are the effects on a person who sufferd sexual violence, sexual abuse? What are the effects on family and society? Why is sexual abuse and sexual violence still one of the last taboos in our society? Michael Reh, a survivor himself, gives answers to these and other Questions regarding this topic. The reknown author talks about how trauma can develop, and how survivors and society can deal with dismissal conscious and subconscious patterns. It is a very personal 9 Step programm, where the author shares his personal experiences, where the "victim" of sexual violence is allowed to confront his personal experiences and can start to deal with it in his or her own pace. Reh explains what sexual violence means to a survivor and how friends and family can learn how to help and interact in a healthy way. He talks about drug abuse and addiction and how the internet, the darknet and social media changed our behaviour specifically regarding sexual violence. He describes a way out of shame and Isolation, a healing catharsis.